15 Learnings from My 30th High School Reunion

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I remember sitting in my Economics college class listening to Professor Lary (sic) Taylor describe how he had just attended his high school reunion.  Given my interest in human behavior, I was rapt with attention, as though I was hearing the words of a prophet prophesying my future.  Indeed, many of his findings concurred with my own 30th high school reunion.  I have starred (*) these six below.

First, I never intended to be the organizer for my reunion; that’s life for you.  I had missed two earlier big markers of time.  Namely, the 10th reunion was too close to my wedding to attend. And, my parents both died right before my 20th reunion, so I did not have the heart to attend.  Losing my mother led me to want to have a “family reunion” with my community.  The outcome resulted in planning the 30th to include anyone who lived in my hometown as a student in the 1980’s.  And, so, my mission began.

Here are the 14 learnings I take away from this experience on 9.9.17:

  1. *Be Kind…you never know what someone is going through. The strangest guy in my graduating class ended up in San Quentin prison for pedophilia. As it turns out, he was sexually, verbally, and physically abused by his father since he was a toddler.
  2. *Entrepreneurialism Works. A couple of my schoolmates never went to college and are financially successful and self-taught.  I never doubted it as possible, and it was rewarding to see it.
  3. Mama Mía. One of the absolute poorest schoolmates has become one of the most wealthy among us, both financially and spiritually. She adopted three children as a single mom.
  4. Generosity & Otherwise. In order to be inclusive to all I made the reunion entry a nominal $19.87.  Three schoolmates made sizeable donations towards expenses, and several paid-it-forward on the entry.  There were roughly a dozen who couldn’t comprehend why they should pay any amount, and a few dared to show up without paying (*freeriders).
  5. Bueller? Even a couple of “popular kids” were afraid to return; with some not coming at all.  One schoolmate claimed to have to breathe in his car for 20 minutes before he could join in.
  6. *Sing “Memories,” Babs. A lot of people forgot a LOT of details from the past.  For some, the fond memories got jogged back.  For others, there was closure on lost loves and/or grievances.  For all, the event felt like getting back in touch with one’s self, but a better version of one’s self.
  7. *Party on, Dude. The high school partiers are still the partiers.  Despite being rabble-rousers, they are an inextricable ingredient to a lively reunion.
  8. I Did; I Do. The girls who experimented early (on a campus which imposed a double-standard) ended up being devoted, long-married women.  Love, and let love.
  9. ‘80’s Medley. One of the great joys that added to the exponentially intense emotional highs was gathering with those schoolmates who preceded and succeeded us; not just one class, and not just for those who actually graduated.  It was a true community event – one which even included parents.
  10. *Back in Time. Several of us described how incredibly unusual it was to hear the same voices and hear the same laughter after all these years, and be able to recognize them. This enabled us to “time travel” emotionally.
  11. Before & After. Having a slideshow of how we were “back then” and having the schoolmate stand next to his/her slide photo when their name was called proved to be very useful. Some I failed to recognize upon first sight, and others I didn’t know had shown up until they stepped up. Individual recognition among a group of classmates to the larger student body introduced a “Venn diagram” of connection which was palpable.
  12. Repetition & Resilience Pays. There were numerous monkey wrenches thrown at every facet of the event: from venue to cupcakes; the worst being no cell phone coverage. I determined the Rule of 7…if I haven’t communicated, like an advertisement, at least 7x, then I must hold only myself accountable.  
  13. *Forever Young. We laughed; we cried. We lost 16 alumni in less than 35 years.  Given the smallness of our alumni group, that averages to roughly 6% of our student population.
  14. Scathed. No one seemingly gets through the gauntlet of 30+ years of life past high school without some form of tragedy, trauma, or grief touching us. There were tales of divorce(s), jail, death(s) of loved ones, lost employment, financial ruin, illness, etc.
  15. Success Defined. It all depends on how one defines success, of course. I define it as balance. From my observations, it appears that the ones who have achieved the most balance in their lives are not necessarily the ones who earn the most money, or have the most education.  It seems to be the ones who have successfully found the right partners, family, and/or friends to surround themselves with…constantly.  Positive chemistry.  That may sound like nothing new, yet, it is one thing to know it; and, quite another to witness it at this juncture in life and work, on such a grand scale.

I am grateful to have had my sons serve as volunteers at this event, simply for this last learning.  The challenges of life are hard to face without the love and support of those who know you at your core.  THIS is family.

I can cross this off my bucket list.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a proud member of the Class of 1987, Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  Visit us at CorporateLookingGlass.com.

©Rossina Gil, 2017

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“Happy Chemicals” at Work

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Happy people don’t leave organizations.  Why? Because they enjoy what they’re doing with others who value what they bring to the table.  How is that relevant to the company?  Because literally billions of dollars are lost annually from attrition, gatekeeper recruiter time, interview travel costs, relocation expenses, learning curve/training time, cultural assimilation, possible visas/attorney fees, loss of productivity, and further fallout from the change of talent.  Has your company ever measured the cost of poor organizational health?  If not, be prepared that today’s talent is checking organizational culture reviews on Glassdoor before they even apply or accept interviews.

So, what is happening internally which causes people to stay?  Some companies (surprisingly) still believe it is about the money, despite several studies indicating the contrary.  Scientists across several fields of study concur that human beings strive for homeostasis, i.e. a balance, which helps us feel safe.  While we can be motivated by fear, our strong preference over “fight or flight” is to dwell and enjoy.  The four chemicals that our bodies physiologically produce when we enjoy our environment and the variables within it are the following: Dopamine, Endorphin, Oxytocin, and Serotonin.

 

OFFICE YIN YANG

The SELFISH chemicals are dopamine and the endorphins.  They get us to where we need to go as individuals.  The SELFLESS chemicals are oxytocin and serotonin.  They get us to work together and develop feelings of trust and loyalty.  If only one side dominates, your organization has either chaos or stagnancy.  The balance of selfish and selfless chemicals is one of the successful CEO’s primary tasks.

Let’s examine each one:

Dopamine – DOMINANCE.  This is the Incentive for progress.  The positive is it enables us to set goals, focus, and achieve.  For those who like “the chase” and the cave man feeling of “conquest,” they have to monitor a possible addiction to dopamine. How does your organizational culture promote win-win goals?

Endorphins – ENDURANCE.  These mask physical pain.  They are released during a “runner’s high” and when your stomach is contracting strongly during a good laugh. Imagine: It is impossible to simultaneously laugh and be afraid. What keeps your office smiling?

Oxytocin – AFFECTION. This forms bonds of love and trust.  Oxytocin is produced through acts of service, sacrifice, and selflessness on behalf of others. Organizational cultures which implement these behaviors into a daily practice have a high chance of pre-empting the emergence of toxicity in the workplace.

Not only does oxytocin keep us healthy (no sick days), they make us better problem solvers. It is #10 on the Gallup Q12: “I have a best friend at work.”  This means someone who we can trust as an ally.  This chemical makes it more about “us,” instead of the addictive quality of “me” that dopamine fulfills.  When we share joint challenges, our bodies release oxytocin, which forms bonds.  Leaders must offer talent a reason to grow.

Serotonin – PRIDE.  It’s the feeling of pride and leadership.  Serotonin is produced when those we lead in the workplace develop into more skilled professionals under our guidance.  True leaders are supportive and do not undermine their direct reports.  (Managers do).

Serotonin only exists in symbiotic relationships – each person feels like s/he is gaining a benefit from their association.  Much like Confucianism’s five bonds (father to son, elder brother to younger, husband to wife, ruler to ruled, friend to friend), a burst of serotonin provides the feeling that others like or respect us.  This is why time is allowed to each Oscar winner at the Academy Awards, before the symphony plays them off stage…the winner feels like s/he couldn’t have accomplished what they did without the support from others.

 

CHEMICAL IMBALANCE IN THE WORKPLACE

When I was young, I was told “stress will kill you.”  This never made much sense to me until more recently.  Cortisol is the chemical that is produced by our bodies when our workplace offers a constant state of fear and/or anxiety.  This chemical, cortisol, has the potential to reconfigure our internal systems, cause lasting damage, and shorten our lives.  One of my clients ended up in the emergency room, only to be told by her doctor that she was experiencing work-related stress.  She had an interim boss who was a corporate bully.  He did not recognize that fear and/or lack of homeostasis inhibit(s) productivity.

For our own health reasons, we must never accept toxic environments, whether they be inside or outside of the workplace.  Do not attempt to fool yourself that you can become accustomed to the stress.  Low, regular levels of stress (i.e. cortisol) can no only break down our internal organs, it can activate dormant cancer cells.

What constitutes a toxic workplace?  Basically, values which are not being supported from the top-down. Author Simon Sinek: “Hypocrites, liars, and self-interested leaders create culture filled with hypocrites, liars and self-interested employees.  The leaders of companies who tell the truth, in contrast will create a culture of people who tell the truth.  It’s not rocket science.  We follow the leader.”

Mimicry begins in infancy.  Leaders know when to make it stop, and that includes you – know when to walk away from those who have a toxic abundance.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Global Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners. She is the author of The Corporate Looking Glass: Using Culture for Your Competitive AdvantageWe increase retention. Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

 

Resources:

Loretta Graziano Breuning, Ph.D. Habits of a Happy Brain

Simon Sinek. Leaders Eat Last

 

How Stanley Milgram Predicted United’s Behavior

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“The essence in obedience consists in the fact that a person comes to view himself as an instrument for carrying out another person’s wishes and he therefore no longer regards himself as responsible for his actions.” ― Stanley Milgram

Social psychologist and Yale professor Dr. Stanley Milgram conducted a controversial experiment on obedience and authority in the 1960’s. Following the Nazi war crimes from WWII where the German soldiers defended themselves in court trials as “Not Guilty” because they were just following orders, Milgram’s intent was to expose how willingly people behave towards those in charge. 

EXPERIMENT: Milgram engaged volunteer students to play the role of being electrically charged, where the ultimate charge involved excruciating pain and could potentially kill someone. While they were indeed connected to equipment, there was no exposure to pain – they simply acted. The subjects, unaware of the ruse, believed that the volunteer students could be hurt as they turned a series of “electrical” switches in increasing amounts of voltage under the direction of a “scientist.” The volunteers were placed in an adjacent room, however, their screams, cries of pain, and shouting to make it stop, could easily be heard. Whenever the subjects hesitated to turn the next switch of a higher voltage, the scientist would calmly state, “the experiment must continue.” How many continued?

RESULTS: Nearly two-thirds (65%) of the subjects completed the entire experiment. Not only did they not show concern for the student’s well-being, they insisted that they were not responsible for it, despite having been the one who turned the switch! Their reasoning? “They were just doing as they were told.” Deflection and blame (transference) against the student was also common, e.g. “He was so stupid and stubborn, he deserved to be shocked.”

ABERRATION: So, what about the other 35%? The subjects who refused to continue were those who did not see the scientist as the ultimate authority. They either saw God as who they serve, and/or believed that they themselves must assume accountability for their actions in harming others. This is true leadership, not just whoever is sitting at the top of the pecking order.

SUMMARY: The 65% result demonstrates how the majority of people within a system will ignore how others are hurting if, and when, they feel that they are disrupting their place in the pecking order. They are more prone to following the “rules,” instead of exhibiting empathy and humanity.

 

APPLICATION TO THE WORKPLACE

In a recent debacle with United, a passenger was literally dragged off a plane, because he refused to give up his paid-for seat to crew which needed to be sent to the destination city for work the next day. United had offered vouchers to those four who would give up their seats, but it wasn’t monetarily sufficient for the passengers to volunteer, so the four passengers to be ejected off the aircraft were selected (through algorithms) for “forced volunteerism” – which United referred to as “re-accommodation.” When the fourth passenger refused to deplane, the crew called Security, which ended up forcefully dragging the passenger off the flight, and, in the process, bloodied the passenger. Despite protests from fellow passengers, Security dragged the passenger up the aisle and off the plane.

The United crew, commended by their CEO the following day for their judgment, elected to not incrementally increase the price of the voucher for self-select volunteerism, which could have very well led to four passengers voluntarily agreeing to deplane. Instead, United resorted to treating its customers as cargo.

As Simon Sinek wrote, “We don’t just trust people to obey the rules, we also trust that they know when to break them. If good people are asked to work in a bad culture, people will be more concerned about following the rules out of fear of getting in trouble or losing their jobs than doing what needs to be done. When fight or flight is the name of the game and no broad Circle of Safety exists, then kill or get fired is the best strategy.”

Jack Welch, former CEO of GE and author of at least five books on (so-called) leadership, is among several corporate leaders who began treating people as an expendable resource back in the 1980’s. Since then, other organizations believed they should follow suit and use layoffs to meet their numbers for Wall Street. One company in the South (which no longer exists) followed this practice for 8 consecutive years, and, according to its former head of HRIS (Human Resource Information Systems), manipulated the data to falsely represent that more formerly exited employees were wishing to return than those wishing to leave.

 

IMPACT ON THE YOUNGEST WORKFORCE

It is little wonder why Millennials have been dubbed as “disloyal” for leaving companies after relatively little time. Bear in mind the following, which shaped their perspective:

  • Millennials witnessed the fall of “stable organizations” such as Enron, Tyco, WorldCom, and Lehman Brothers – companies to which some of their parents had dedicated their entire careers.
  • Millennials watched their parents’ devastation over losing money to fraudulent stockbrokers, like Bernie Madoff.
  • Some Millennial families became homeless after the Dot.com bust of 2000, or the housing-market crash of 2008.
  • Worst of all, many Millennials lost their parents in the ultimate sacrifice of solely showing up for work at the Twin Towers on 9.11.01.

What they observed is that company loyalty towards its talent for how hard their parents worked or how much they sacrificed or how well they contributed to the company no longer translated into job stability. In a workforce predominantly consisting of egalitarians, loyalty is not a one-way street. Therefore, it is paramount that empathy and humanity be part of the corporate equation in order for retention, productivity, and stock to stay strong. It is a balance that must be remedied in order for our economy and personal health to be robust.

 

Leadership displays empathy and humanity. Praise your talent for those traits; role-model them. Empower them to use their minds to overcome rules which may oppose these traits, and, like United, you could potentially save your company a $800 million public relations disaster.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Global Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners. She is the author of The Corporate Looking Glass: Using Culture for Your Competitive AdvantageWe increase retention. Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

 

Resources:

Stanley Milgram. Obedience to Authority

Simon Sinek. Leaders Eat Last

 

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This book contains a series of blogs which have reached 120+ countries, and over 16K readers who are interested in books and topics which relate to leading effectively. Specific recommendations and concrete, current examples are provided to direct the reader into relevant action and to establish clear comprehension of the Behavioral Science theories –which often get lost in academic jargon. Executives, people managers, Industrial Psychologists, Organization Development practitioners, facilitators, and anyone interested in provocative thinking would be interested in this book.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is an inquisitive Global Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  We increase retention.  Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

Engage in Nashville

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Engage in Nashville is a strategic plan created as a contribution for America’s “It” city, Nashville, Tennessee.  This post exhibits exemplary work by Corporate Looking Glass, LLC.

Please click on the Engage in Nashville link to see the slideshare.  If you are interested in work for your city, kindly write us at info@CorporateLookingGlass.com, and an associate will promptly contact you.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, cultural integration expert, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  We increase retention.  Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

 

 

Sycophant: Tale-Teller about Figs

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Brown-noser, ass-kisser, bootlicker, flatterer, toady, apple polisher, yes-man, parasite, ladder climber, hanger-on, fawner, et al, are all synonyms for “sycophant.”  When a cultural norm (or object) is important to a culture, it is given several names.  The Eskimos have 50+ words for snow, Brazilians have 136 terms (28 categories) for skin color, and so on.  So how did the word “sycophant” originate?

 

Origin of “Sycophant”

Well, if you’ve watched My Big, Fat Greek Wedding, the answer is not in the movie, but the origin of sychophancy came from Greece. “Sykophantēs” is Greek for a “tale-teller about figs.”  In today’s terms, we may call that person a “snitch,” however the social context is more complicated than that.  I shall explain…in ancient Greece, the law of the land had some loopholes. One such loophole, if you will, was the ability for unscrupulous people to take people to court for a crime both parties knew was not committed. It was a way to make money (i.e. blackmail), because it would be cheaper (and reduce the likelihood of a tarnished brand/reputation) to settle out of court. (A-hem!…don’t place that scalding hot coffee between your thighs as you drive away from the drive-thru).

Now 6th-century Greece did not have a police system in place, per se, and it was considered illegal to export any consumable goods other than olives, yet figs were another rich commodity.  If a fellow citizen accused you of fig smuggling, then they, themselves, could prosecute you and gain from the rewards.

The rewards were not limited to financial gain, however.  Being an informant to the authorities was a commonplace effort intended for recognition of civic duty and a behavior of explicit ingratiation.  The strive for power and influence in social circles is a cultural phenomenon found throughout the animal kingdom (that includes us homo sapiens).

Having too much power and influence often lends itself to envy.  Envy, in turn, can lead to slander, ostracism, and – in the case of Socrates (and, later, Jesus) – punishment by death.  In Corporate America, the parallel terminology could be watercooler chatter, false accusation, termination (of employment).

 

Corporate Sycophants

While At Will states create room for chaos by the masses, Right to Work (a.k.a. Right to Fire states) states are breeding grounds for more sycophancy.  This is because state law in At Will states protects the employee, whereas state law in Right to Work states protects the employer.  This social construct leads people to perform more ingratiation (than usual) from the bottom-up, knowing that if they fail to please their superiors, termination can be as simple as Donald Trump’s “You’re fired” – no reason, or paper trail, necessary.  This type of structure keeps traditional (i.e. Good Ol’ Boy) systems in place, and lends itself to conformity – which is, needless to say, lack of diversity of thought.

In a corporate setting rife with “yes-men,” how possible is it to have a robust strategy?

How likely is a sycophantic company capable of out-performing its competitors?

 

RECOMMENDATIONS

  1. Outsource Human Relations (HR). There is a grain of truth in every stereotype…social politics (hence, the workforce) will improve when the administrative laborers are off-site (or overseas).  Many HR professionals tend to respond more from a “What do you want to fix?” or a “respond to the urgent” approach rather than a “focus on the important” one.  They often demonstrate reticence, even resistance, to embrace a more strategic, and less transactional, approach, either from lack of know-how and/or fear.
  2. Clamp down on cronyism. Social factions develop as a direct result of “kharis” (Greek word with no direct translation) – which is a feeling of gratitude and loyalty for the extended favor. Self-serving behavior results (loyalty “pay-back” for having been hired by a friend/acquaintance) as opposed to what is best for the organization.
  3. Have a transparent succession plan in place. High-Potentials will stay and work hard when there is a career path outlined for them.  Outright favoritism will drive them away.
  4. Hire Organization Development (OD) professionals. A real OD practitioner does not (always) supply the answers.  Their role is to ask Socratic questions which determine the business need, and to partner with clients to determine the answers.  They facilitate discussions.  They retain objectivity, especially as outside/external consultants.  In essence, they serve as the Center of Excellence (COE), which is responsible for designing the solution, while in-house HR staff implement the solution; not the other way around.  The 5 standard COE areas are the following: Leadership Development, change management, team effectiveness, talent recruitment, and retention.
  5. Make your talent pool reflect your target market. This is so obvious, it is painful to include.  However, the statistics on the emerging markets (“hidden” dollars) contrasted against the composition of most C-Suites are staggeringly incongruent.
  6. Role-model challenging others’ thought processes. Mimicry is the oldest form of learning.  It is an innate ability we can witness in infants.  Press your direct reports, and they will learn to do the same.  (See also A Peak inside the Leadership Development of Facebook).
  7. Commend the challenging of thought process. Rewarded behavior makes it safe to perform, it gets repeated faster, and it becomes a norm.  17th-Century French philosopher René Descartes was famous for having said, “I think; therefore, I am.”  Cartesian logic (named after Descartes) is the act of exploring conceptual thought to hear and practice how the logical path stems and to where it can lead.  If a strategy is to be sound, then no stone must be left unturned, or your company risks losing its foothold on its competitive advantage.  That’s worth praise!

 

A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.” – Francis Bacon

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, cultural integration expert, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  We increase retention.  Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

© Rossina Gil, 2016

 

Leading with Determination: WebMD’s Dr. Paul

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We’ve all heard “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Well, if that holds true, then Paul Seville, MD, MBI, CPHIMS, has super strength.  A urological surgeon turned medical informatics expert, Dr. Paul has survived FIVE brushes with death.  Here’s a quick run-down:

  1. Malpractice. A pediatrician’s erroneous medical judgment led to a severe chronic kidney infection; rendering Dr. Paul to lose both healthy kidneys and be subjected for years to dialysis.
  2. Surgery. In 6th grade, he received a cadaveric kidney from a motorcyclist’s death.
  3. Surgery. Once the first donated kidney reached its longevity, his sister donated her kidney to him.
  4. Car Crash. A speeding, drunk, uninsured, twice-deported illegal resident crashed into Dr. Paul’s car head-on while he was driving around a corner, placing him in the hospital for a couple of days as he urinated blood.
  5. Bike Accident/Brain Surgery. The ecologically conscious doctor was bicycling to work with his helmet on, when something happened to the bike and he ended up head first onto the pavement.  He had 2” by 3” of his skull removed to suction out the coagulated blood that was pushing the left side of his brain towards the right, and now has titanium filling the rectangular space.

Dr. Paul is one of the several medical doctors who have endorsed the newest Leadership Development program created by Corporate Looking Glass, LLC, which is Blue Health™.  While he currently resides in Portland, Oregon, he is originally from the only Blue Zone in the USA, Loma Linda, California.  He read my blog 10 Traits of a Positive Thinker: #7 DETERMINATION, and recognized how he leads with determination.

One of the amusing stories he shared with me is how he was conducting rounds as a hospitalist, and entered a room where the adult daughter of a patient was angrily waiting.  “My father has gone through a lot of pain, and you have NO idea what he has gone through!” she yelled at Dr. Paul.  He calmly addressed her concerns about her father’s post-op care.  She continued to rant about her presupposed belief of Dr. Paul’s inability to relate to her father’s condition.  Formerly ashamed of the long scars Dr. Paul’s surgeons left on his sides (#1 above) when he was a small boy, he opened his white lab coat, lifted his shirt, and revealed the monstrously large cicatrix – which appear as though he was sliced open from front to back on both sides…only because he was.  He answered, “I know what your father is going through, because I went through it myself.  And, multiple times.”

How many doctors can say that?  How many doctors have been on both ends of the knife?

Furthermore, how many of us can say we get back up on our feet to serve others when we could be consumed with our personal needs?  Former Vietnam Prisoner of War (POW) General Admiral James Stockdale said, “Self-realization cannot be achieved without service to the community.” Dr. Paul no longer practices surgery, but continues to serve others with his expertise at WebMD.

Stockdale: “The pre-Socratic Heraclitus said the development of the heart has to do with the capacity to face and experience reality.  The capacity for that experience is also the capacity for courage.  The heart wills, it is the seat of conscience, it introduces purpose.” (See blog on Purpose).

Dr. Paul championed many years of childhood taunts, only to be the bully’s champion in the operating room.  Epictetus (the ancient Greek philosopher): Difficulties are what show men’s character.

When asked how Dr. Paul feels about the mistake his surgeons made when he was a little boy, he echoes Epictetus: “It is unthinkable that one man’s error could cause another’s suffering.  There can be no such thing as being the ‘victim’ of another.  You can only be a victim of yourself.  It’s all how you discipline your mind.”

New Year is not the only time when you can begin anew.

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  We increase retention.  Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

© Rossina Gil, 2015

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Stockdale, Jim. Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot.

How to Turn a Dysfunctional Leader into a Highly Functional Leader

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Jane Doe (Not her real name!) is a VP at a large organization.  Her boss sits in the C-Suite and rewards her for reaching the objectives listed in her job description.  The problem is Jane has had more than two entire team turnovers in less than two years.  Her boss wrestles with the question: How can he let Jane go when she is doing exactly what he hired her to do?

Jane’s boss weighs the actual costs of personnel lost, recruiter time, learning curve and the intangible costs of distrust, watercooler chatter and lack of team cohesion against Jane meeting his annual objectives and goals.  It’s so much easier for him to keep the status quo, so he turns a deaf ear to the complaints streaming in through the uneasy Human Resource directors.  Jane’s workhorse style and “the whippings shall continue until you are all happy” are inconsequential to him, since results matter more than feelings.  In essence, he is teaching Jane to just “get ‘er dun” and she is more than ready to comply.

Let’s be clear here: The dysfunctional leader is not just Jane; it is, firstly, her boss.

Examples like this real-life “Jane” and her boss abound in Corporate America.  Yet, slumped productivity, wide-spread disengagement, and high levels of attrition are costing the U.S. economy an estimated $370 billion yearly, according to Gallup.*

  • How can a company retain specialized top talent AND keep team retention strong?
  • How can the organization avoid ex-employees posting on GlassDoor.com and damaging the organization’s brand and reputation of its ability to manage well?

Blue Health™ is a two-day Leadership Development program that is designed with a heuristic approach – which enables executives to discover how they can improve engagement, productivity, and overall well-being for themselves, their teams, and the organization as a whole.

The Blue Health™ model demonstrates the ancient Greek philosophical foci of Mind, Body, and Spirit (Energy Management); to which we have added the systemic dimension of the Organization.  This Positive Psychology program is a deep dive into optimizing performance and social dynamics. It engages participants in critical thinking and incorporates various methods of adult learning theory to keep comprehension and interaction levels high.

Our associates have conducted primary research from executives within the world’s five Blue Zones (locations known for holding the highest concentration of self-sufficient centenarians), and Blue Health™ is endorsed by multiple medical doctors from the only Blue Zone in the USA; Loma Linda, California.

If you are ready for healthy, functional leadership, please contact us at info@CorporateLookingGlass.com for further information.  Or, dial 615.431.9689.

Be Well.

Rossina Gil is the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC, a team of Leadership and Organization Development Practitioners and Interculturalists, based across the USA.  Rossina co-launched the Blue Zones initiative in Des Moines, Iowa (Sponsor: Wellmark); and Redondo Beach, California (Sponsor: Beach Cities Health District).  She is the author of The Corporate Looking Glass: Using Culture for Your Competitive Advantage (available on Amazon.com), which is required reading at Pepperdine University’s Graziadio School of Business and Management.  www.CorporateLookingGlass.com

© Rossina Gil, 2015

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http://www.fastcompany.com/3009012/the-costs-of-ignoring-employee-engagement

 

Self as Instrument: Black Sabbath’s Tony Iommi

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Naturally, one of the benefits of keeping diverse company is exposure to different tastes from your own.  So it is that, as the parent of two boys, I accompanied my husband to the barber shop and perused through Rolling Stones magazine while I waited.

I came across how Black Sabbath played their farewell tour this September 2015.  Now, I experienced my high school years in the ‘80’s, so I was no stranger to this band; however, the associations I had of this band were all negative, especially given that I lived those years in a community which kept the Sabbath.  As an adult, my programs entail critical thinking, unconscious bias, implicit associations, and dealing with second-hand bias.  In Tony Iommi’s case, there are a lot of explicitly negative associations (in my opinion), and, yet, to retain critical thinking we must examine the origins.  This is the trait of a leader: Be curious.  What follows is what I uncovered about Iommi, who is Black Sabbath’s sole continual band member and primary composer, the man who invented the Heavy Metal riff and is ranked by Rolling Stones as #25 of the 100 greatest guitarists of all time.

Anthony Frank Iommi was 17-years old at work in a sheet metal factory when he lost the tips of his middle and ring fingers on the “fretting” hand.  He was more distraught at the prospect of having to surrender his enjoyment of guitar playing than the fact that he lost his fingertips (that’s my female, non-guitarist subjective experience at play).  Recognizing Iommi’s distress, his factory foreman played him a recording of the famous jazz guitarist, Jean “Django” Reinhardt.

Iommi:

“My friend said, ‘Listen to this guy play,’ and I went, ‘No way! Listening to someone play the guitar is the very last thing I want to do right now!’ But he kept insisting and he ended up playing the record for me. I told him I thought it was really good and then he said, ‘You know, the guy’s only playing with two fingers on his fretboard hand because of an injury he sustained in a terrible fire.’ I was totally knocked back by this revelation and was so impressed by what I had just heard that I suddenly became inspired to start trying to play again.”

Unique Sound and timing of consumer readiness/delivery.  Iommi slackened the strings to ease the tension on his fingers, so it wouldn’t hurt so much.  This produced a strange sound, which became a technique and the mainstay of heavy metal music.  The sound has the musical technical term of Tritone, or the flattened 5th (a.k.a. augmented 4th), which spans three whole steps in the scale.  In the Middle Ages, this dissonant music interval was called “diabolus in musica” (the devil in the music).  Diminished chords are often used during the scary parts of horror movies.  Consequently, Iommi became known as playing the “Devil Chord.”

Band Name and the discovery of marketplace demand.  Iommi’s band was called Earth, but they discovered there was another English band named Earth, so they opted to change their name to avoid confusion. It just so happened that the movie theater marquis across the street from the band’s rehearsal room displayed “Black Sabbath”— a 1963 horror film, starring Boris Karloff.  Bassist Geezer Butler commented, “Strange that people spend so much money to see scary movies.”  Light bulb…people want to feel.

Marketing and creating the “stick factor.” Iommi didn’t come up with the concept of the upside-down cross; he always wears the cross necklace rightside up.  However, once Black Sabbath recorded its first album under that name, the marketing group kept with the theme of rebelling against a long-held standard of mainstream tradition.  This perceived Satanism solidified, and indelibly etched, this group’s place in Rock – a musical genre that already attracted a group of “rebels” against traditional culture.

Leaders follow their passions, despite the obstacles.  They carve their place in time by staying true to who they are, and by recognizing that being different may be the greatest asset they have.  Carbon copies are not craved as much as limited editions.  Realizing that sometimes life’s disasters happen for a reason — which are usually unknown to us in the moment – is critical for resilience and success…and, if we are resilient, we place ourselves in a better position to experience a high bounce after a deep fall.

Thank you for being you, Tony.

How do you practice self as instrument?

 

Rossina Gil, MSOD, MAIS, is a Leadership and Organization Development Practitioner, cultural integration expert, and the founder of Corporate Looking Glass, LLC – a diverse consultancy of OD experts and strategic thinking partners.  We increase retention.  Visit CorporateLookingGlass.com.

© Rossina Gil, 2015

Sources:

BBC interview.  June, 2013.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1QEd8CqAmGs

Iommi, Tony. Iron Man: My Journey through Heaven and Hell with Black Sabbath. Simon & Schuster Ltd. (2011). 

NYRock.com. Ozzy Osbourne: The Godfather of Metal”. June 2002.